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I think the response to the check writer should have been another handmade card thanking them for their kind donation - with "Oh I didn't realize you were an off the peg person and didn't like couture." Someone that values money over time would definitely get it! ;)
People like that are why I find it so hard to part with the cards I've made. I put so much of myself into them, that I hate to think of the recipient sneering or jeering.
I do keep making cards though. There are some people that I know appreciate them. It cuts down on my Christmas card list too. :-)
I think the response to the check writer should have been another handmade card thanking them for their kind donation - with "Oh I didn't realize you were an off the peg person and didn't like couture." Someone that values money over time would definitely get it! ;)
That is exactly what I would have done! What an ignoramus!
My mother describes store bought cards as "proper cards".I love my hobbie and continue to do it (much to my mothers disgust apparently I am wasting money and time and should be resting more,I am fit and healthy but Mum loves a good rest and I am a happier person then my mum and that says it all.
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My husband read it to me this morning. I can not believe how rude some people are. Unlike Abby, I would have spent the money she sent me and wrote out a thank you note telling her I bought some more paper or whatever with it. That would be the last card she ever got from me.
ROFLMBO!!!!!!!!
Too funny! I, too, would have spent the money...however, I would have sent a STAMP SET to her for her CHRISTMAS GIFT! LOL;)
My mother describes store bought cards as "proper cards".I love my hobbie and continue to do it (much to my mothers disgust apparently I am wasting money and time and should be resting more,I am fit and healthy but Mum loves a good rest and I am a happier person then my mum and that says it all.
Junnee
My mother worked for Hallmark. She would say, "Our cards are the very best...unless you count Handcrafted cards...those are the ULTIMATE gift. They are part of the artist who crafted them!"
My mother worked for Hallmark. She would say, "Our cards are the very best...unless you count Handcrafted cards...those are the ULTIMATE gift. They are part of the artist who crafted them!"
Wasn't she an angel? *Insert a heavy sigh here.
Definate angel there!
I wonder if the person who wrote to Dear Abby associates handmade cards with recycling used cards? I remember people years ago used to cut out things from cards they received and made their own cards for the following year. It was more to save money than being creative, but I wouldn't have uttered a bad word even then. It still takes time to do that. We have mailboxes at church and some people sign a card and don't even address the front so they can just pop one in any box they feel like...that to me is not personal like a handmade card.
That Dear Abby letter broke my heart. The chick that sent the check sure has a lot of *all* to send something so hurtful. But count me as one who would use the money to buy more stamps...and send a handstamped thank you for the money that was used to buy more stamps...and then cross her off the mailing list.
I do have to admit...the same day that was in the paper, I received a Christmas card from my husband's godparents. In her letter, she said how much she was looking forward to our card and "that there's a lot of love in your handmade cards." And, I have several other friends and relatives that have told me how much they enjoy my Christmas cards...and are just totally amazed by the cool things I can do with paper and ink. So...there ARE people that get it
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I would send the lady her money back with a pic of the GRINCH on it and leave the card blank so she could come to her own conclusions to what you meant by sending it....how nasty of her shame on her..
My husband read it to me this morning. I can not believe how rude some people are. Unlike Abby, I would have spent the money she sent me and wrote out a thank you note telling her I bought some more paper or whatever with it. That would be the last card she ever got from me.
I was thinking the same thing.
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I have also sent a response to Dear Abby. How sad that anyone would chose to crush a little one's spirit in that way! I would never share such unkindness with a child! I have handmade ornaments that I have over the years received from children who have been clients. They are not all masterful works of art, but they are touching tributes from the heart and I get a warm glow everytime I hang one up! I think the relative needs to be called on her rude behavior.
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Maybe you should invite your friends/relatives that don't appreciate handmade cards over for a card-making night. I know mine liked my cards before, but after seeing all the supplies and work it takes to make one, they really appreciate it now!
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What an EXCELLENT idea! My MIL never dissed my cards and always seemed to appreciate them, but after she tried making some with me, she commented on how much work and practice goes into them. She now makes more of a point to express her appreciation. But then, she sews and quilts, so appreciating hand-made is well-ingrained in her!
As I stated above, I would have definitely cashed the check. I may have bought more supplies, but then every time I would look at them, I would think of her and it would have made me mad! I would probably just have given the $10 to my church or some other charity and then sent her a letter telling her what I did! LOL
I would send the lady her money back with a pic of the GRINCH on it and leave the card blank so she could come to her own conclusions to what you meant by sending it....how nasty of her shame on her..
This made me chuckle because I made a card (it's in my gallery) with a Grinch on it. Hubby asked me why I made it and who would I send it to....LOL
I have had one person call me "cheap" for making cards...Never sent them another one..I get many compliments and have a large demand here at my office that I sell. One man loves them so much instead of giving me $5 a card, he said I under value my self and pays $10. My point is, do what you love and it will bring joy to others..I know many service men love to get them, as to the elderly shut ins, or kids in children's hospitals. I would tell her to make them and give them to those who appreciate them.
I think the time spent with her neice will be some of her fondest memories later in life. I know mine are.
Um. WOW! I don't even know what to say about the Dear Abby letter!
What I will say is that the meaning of "handmade" should be stamped somewhere on the envelope so that non-cardmakers understand that "handmade" actually means ...that someone took some time out of their day to create something special just for you. What it also means is that you were in mind when coming up with the design, picking the pretty papers and the perfect sentiment and image let alone the colouring or paper piecing. That it also means that they may have possibly endured injury to them selves (paper cuts, glitter in the eyes, use your imagination because injuries in papercrafting can be serious *wink*) and their property (ink pads on the carpet, glue on the furniture, burning down the house with a heat gun) and even draining their bank accounts for supplies for a beautiful handmade, one of a kind greeting, made specifically just to brighten your day
You are so funny!!!! Well said...I will have to remember this for later.
I know a lot of people who are like the woman who sent the check - they live and breath money. If you didn't buy it or if you didn't pay a lot of money for it (then tell everyone just where and for how much you spent), then you're cheap. Unfortunately, those people are teaching their kids to behave the same way. The number of rude, uncaring, thoughtless people in this world is increasing at a huge rate. I see it everyday with people who think their time and money is so much more important than anyone else's.
This was what I was trying to express in my post also, but you did it much better! Sometimes, I have a hard time getting my point across, and I use too many words. I envy people that express themselves in a concise and to-the-point matter. Thanks for your post; you said it perfectly!
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I know a lot of people who are like the woman who sent the check - they live and breath money. If you didn't buy it or if you didn't pay a lot of money for it (then tell everyone just where and for how much you spent), then you're cheap.
Um maybe we should all send the lady the invoices from ALL our purchases? We'd see who's "cheap" then! LOL!!!! Cracks me up when people think cardmaking is cheap with supplies alone...and then the extra postage we have to pay from all the embellies:-)
This made me chuckle because I made a card (it's in my gallery) with a Grinch on it. Hubby asked me why I made it and who would I send it to....LOL
I looked for it but couldnt find it...i will keep trying...but yes I guess you just never know what kind of card you might need...LOL...who would have thought a Grinch card would come in handy ?! I am sure your card is cute!
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I think she should send her a hand made thank you card with a picture of her and her niece toasting wine glasses and say "thanks for buying our wine, wouldn't think of sending anything other than hand made...cheers!" (sorry evil side of me brought out by rude people)
:shock: Obviously, the "friend" of Blue at Christmas may exchange gifts and cards at Christmas, but doesn't comprehend the meaning behind it, or she would never devalue someone's effort like that. If I were the advice columnist, I wouldn't waste breath on her, but I would tell Blue at Christmas to continue crafting with her niece.
I just read the letter about the hand made cards. I hope someone had directed you to a site: Splitcoaststampers.com . Go to the gallery and you will see the fabulous art work. Hand making cards is expensive, time consuming and a work of love. Anyone who does not appreciate the art is not worthy of receiving one of my cards. And, yes, I have a family member that does not get one of mine anymore. I buy a commercially, reproduced card from China for her. As you can see, art is in the eye of the beholder in this case.
yep--my own sister asked me not to send her anymore of my cards. I try to send a card a month to a list of 20 people so they get some 'good' mail. I replaced her with someone who cares! LOL
Sent my response to Dear Abby. Please keep us posted if she replies in the paper. I encourage others to flood her office. Maybe the lady who wrote the letter will get the idea.
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I was shocked when I read it. How could anyone not love a hand made card? I also will reply to Abby. What ignorant person to write a check. She's just plain evil.
Sad but true, I probably spend more money on just the adhesive than most do on their boxed cards.
I did wonder about others thinking I was too cheap to send a bought card..... if they only knew. (Maybe instead of pictures of the kids this year I should send a photo of my studio... where all all the magic happens. LOL)
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How rude...I wonder how much the check was for..Cause I would have written her a thank you note of a post-it note and said "Looks whose talking bout cheap. The store bought cards that I would want to give you are gonna cost a little more than you sent. Please forward extra funds so you can get it by next Xmas."
Thats why so many young people's creativity and freedom of expression gets destroyed. All it takes is one senseless remark to make a person give up on something they love to do.
Whoever you are, please continue to be creative and share your cards. If I were you I would still send her my cards so she can continue to send checks to use on more crafting products.
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I had an interesting phone call from my sister-in-law the other day. Apparently, I had not put enough postage on the envelope for the Christmas card I sent. She told me that she had laughingly said the card better be worth the 37 cents she had to pay the post office. She assured me that the card was well worth the money she had to fork over to get it! I have several friends that tell me they save every card I send them. So . . . there are plenty of people out there who appreciate hand-made cards. So sorry the Dear Abby writer had a bad experience.
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I had a good friend from high school who got cancer 6 or 7 years ago and went though many battles with it and finally passed at a way too young age (before 30) a couple of years ago. I think I should write dear Abby and tell her how my friend LOVED my cards and saved every single one I made for him. He had even taken pictures of them on his mantel and emailed them to me to see:-) At his visitation and funeral I was pointed out to MANY family members as "the girl who makes T those awesome cards". He was always showing/telling his family about them although I didn't know that until he was gone.
That article still makes my jaw drop...that the recipient of the card could be that thoughtless/ignorant/and rude!
I thought about this thread as I posted a washi tape card last night and realized that single one-layer card cost about $20 just in the washi (which I overbought bigtime and am not really enjoying using...sort of a waste!). Non-crafters just don't have a CLUE!
Wow! I didn't know we were supposed to evaluate the holiday cards we received!
Can you imagine if you gave feedback to all your friends and relatives ... the photo cards, the holiday letters, the obviously-mass-produced cards? Wow!
Seriously takes the 'joy of family and friends' right out of the picture, doesn't it?
It makes me sad that the writer wasn't able to internally just blow off this person who obviously misses the point of sending cards. And yeh, I think Abby missed the mark on her response.
About not-so-well-meaning people and what they're remembered for:
When my parents passed away and I was going through their papers, their photos, their momentos, I came across an old, yellowed hand written letter from some aunt of my grandmother. My mother was a twin. The youngest (by a minute) of five children.
My grandmother had been raised the daughter of a banker. She had married a humble school teacher.
The letter was posted January, and my mom would have been about four months old when my grandmother received it. Was it a letter of congratulations? Was it a letter rejoicing in the life two new babies? No. It was a letter sharing this aunt's deep 'concern' and criticism over a school teacher and his wife having now five children, asking my grandmother what on earth could she be thinking?
I can't imagine the possible shame my grandmother may have felt, as she held her two new babies. I wonder how much joy that letter stole from her. I'm not sure how it affected my mother. She never spoke of the letter, but here it was all those many years later.
While I never met this self-absorbed judgmental great-great aunt of mine, her legacy, for me, certainly lives on. And it's far from a pretty one.
ETA: While there's a huge difference between babies and cards, the motivation behind those small minded people with enormous egos who think they're disguising their cruel words as 'helpfulness' ... they're the same.
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I am so sorry! Unfortunately, There are and will always be thoughtless and uncaring people in our world. I continue to make handmade cards for my MIL who has told me many times that I should buy 99 cent cards. I bite my tongue. As I was taught.... continue to be nice to those that are ignorant.
I wish there was a way that woman could know about this thread so she could share it with her niece -- that would be a great way of reassuring her niece that so many of us "have her back" and give her the encouragement to continue develeloping her creativity! I hope they continue making cards and focus on the majority of recipients who DO appreciate their talents!
I think the response to the check writer should have been another handmade card thanking them for their kind donation - with "Oh I didn't realize you were an off the peg person and didn't like couture." Someone that values money over time would definitely get it! ;)
Good response. Personally I would hold on to the cheque until almost the stale date so it would be running through her books (used to be 6 months here in Canada) . Then I would photocopy it and then cash it! Take the money and the note and put it in a frame and hang it in my craft studio with the caption underneath it ' I thought you were worth my extra work..sorry my mistake'. LOL. Just because I am a witch (with a B)! I have a small rubber stamp for the back of cards that says 'If you think I am cheap because I made this card...you have never bought a rubber stamp'! My sick sense of humour thinks that is funny!
So the moral of the story is...Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't appreciate it..that's what dollar store cards are for...the uglier the better! LOL
