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Hello,
My MIL passed away last evening.
My FIL is taking it very hard. I do want to make him a card but what would be appropriate?
Maybe a thinking/ we are here for you card?
Would you give him a sympathy card?
Any advice is welcome. We are going there tomorrow to make dinner for him (we do every Sunday since MIl got sick) and the rest of the family is also coming home but i still want to make a card for him only and give it to him.
Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. My MIL was in hospital all week, and we weren't sure what the story was - DH had to go over to spend some time with his dad a couple of evenings. TG she's back home today and they've given her an all-clear.
A sympathy card would be fine, but I'd go for the *we are here for you* if it were me. It's never easy to find the right words!
I am saddened to hear of your loss. My sympathies to you and your family. I agree that a sympathy card would be most appropriate. Fill it with love and you can't go wrong. I'll keep you in my prayers during this difficult time.
Mel, anytime we reach out to someone in love it is always appreciated. I bet you father in law would love a card from you, and I think whatever you put in it, it will be from your heart, and that is exactly what he probably needs to hear.
Sorry to hear of your loss. How is your husband doing?
A card is a good idea but just be aware that his reaction cannot be predicted. I had a good friend die very suddenly overnight a couple of months ago and I made a card for her husband. It was the first sympathy card I have ever made and it took me hours to finish something that I felt was just right. When I gave it to him, he couldn't bear to open it as it was like admitting that she had gone. I think it took him a few weeks to open all the cards he got once he started to come to terms with his loss. I think then it is good to know that you have a lot of support but at the beginning it can just be too raw to be reminded.
A card is a good idea but just be aware that his reaction cannot be predicted. I had a good friend die very suddenly overnight a couple of months ago and I made a card for her husband. It was the first sympathy card I have ever made and it took me hours to finish something that I felt was just right. When I gave it to him, he couldn't bear to open it as it was like admitting that she had gone. I think it took him a few weeks to open all the cards he got once he started to come to terms with his loss. I think then it is good to know that you have a lot of support but at the beginning it can just be too raw to be reminded.
I agree that the reaction of the recipient can't be predicted, and we need to respect that individual response, whatever it is. Sending a message of love and sympathy is about all we can do in these instances, and whoever receives it will open it when they're ready. Even if they don't open it right away, just holding the envelope helps them know that someone is there for them.
meluvstampin.......I'm going to rock the boat here a bit. I feel since you want to give the card to someone you are related to, I would give a "Thinking of You" card. I feel it's more personal.
Writing or typing a personal note inside I feel would be most appropriate. Something to the effect that you are there for anything he may need. Certainly signed "With Love" and the names of your immediate family.
I would agree with a nice photo of her in or on the front of the card, and then just a really nice memory you have of your time as a daughter in law. The good things always help during this time. Might make everyone cry more, but this won't be easy any way you do it. Better to use positive thoughts and memories.
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