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Ugh.. I hate having to make a sympathy card when I don't want to make it. My oldest daughter, 17, just found out that one of her very close friends just died in a car accident. Her and this boy were very close (almost dating, but not quite). He is also the cousin of Tara's best friend's boyfriend. I feel so horrible tonight and am totally dreading making a card for the parents. I think I am going to have Tara help make the card, but what a horrible horrible reason to have to make a card. This one hits way too close to home for me. As a parent that is the kind of phone call I NEVER want to recieve. :-(
Someone give me motivation to make this card.. I so don't want to.
__________________ Lisa C., Mom to 3 great kids, 3 super dogs and an cat that thinks she is a dog! My Gallery
how to motivate you, but wanted to offer you and your daughter my sincerest condolences. The card-making might be therapeutic for you both. She may open up and talk to you while you are both working on something together.
Lisa: I agree with you that this is one call I hope I never recieve. As the Mom of two (20 & 23) I worry constantly about their saftey. Think how happy you would be to recieve a hand made sympathy card during your time of sorrow. I think that the fact that someone thought enough to do such a thing might bring a little glimmer of joy in an otherwise very dark time. Did that motivate you? Please pass my sympathy on to your daughter. I will say a prayer for her.
How awful. I needed a sympathy card a couple of weeks ago and bought one. I just couldn't make it. So don't add stress to yourself if you are really not into it. On the other hand, maybe it would be helpful for your daughter to help you with it. I'm so sorry.
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I don't know what to say about making a card. That awful feeling is the reason I have a stash ready to go so I don't have to think about making it when I feel so awful. Not much help. Sorry. More {{{HUGS}}}
So sorry for your loss... Those are the hardest cards to make by far. I'm sure they will appreciate any card you give them, whether you make it or decide to buy one.
Im so sorry you and your daughter and all her friends are going through this. I've had to deal with the same thing when my daughter was in high school...she is now 27. It's tough.
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I am sorry for the loss that you and your daughter are facing. I have been there. When I was 16, my best friend was killed in an auto accident. From someone who knows, please give her her time to deal with the situation (not saying that you wouldn't) She will open up and talk about it when she is ready....always be encouraging. My parents kind of left me alone too long. Looking back on it now, I seeped into a depression and it took me a while (a couple of years) to come out of it. I know they thought they were doing what is best, but I felt like I had no where to go to talk-- even though they were there.
That being said, I still miss her and think about her a lot. I have some things that were very special to her and ocassionally it helps to revisit them and the memories of the good times.
I am praying for your family and this young man's family as well.
__________________ Teresa
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. My daughter's fifteen year old classmate died last Nov. following a supposedly "routine" surgery. I could not bring myself to make her family a card, so I bought one with a very beautiful verse. Don't feel guilty about not wanting to make a card. Sympathy cards are the hardest to make, especially when it is for a young person. Several people decided to send the family a card on what should have been her sixteenth birthday a few months later. I was able to make a card for them, then.
I am so very sorry! This is such a sad and hard situation - my sympathies are with you! Maybe making the card with your daughter will help both of you to deal with this difficult time...
Sweetie, so sorry. All I can say is that I just lost my mother recently and was never so glad to be part of the scrapbooking community. I loved all the homemade cards I received. I'm sure whatever card you make will be beautiful, loved by the family, and dear to your daughter. Linda
As a mother who has lost a son in a car accident when he was only 19 I think the family would appreciate cards from his friends. Every once in a while I get the cards that we received and read love reading them. It really brings some comfort even though it has been almost 20 years. I am very sorry for the family's loss.
oh honey, i'm sorry for your loss too. your poor daughter :( ((hugs))
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You have my sympathies, too. If you think that it would be helpful to you and your daughter to work on this together, ask her what she thinks. I don't think that the family would mind a purchased card. Sympathy cards are the hardest to make. I never think I can make one beautiful enough for what I want to convey so most often purchase one. Sometimes I make several and put them away for a truly rainy day. Take care....
Sympathy card I don't want to make
