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This really isn't even a stamping question, but I can't think of anywhere else to find this answer, so I'm asking it anyway.
I've been working on thank you cards for the many people who brought food, etc. for my mom's funeral. However, I have a dilemma... Two friends came together to drop off their separate gifts. One brought a fruit basket and the other brought a box with paper plates, cups, plastic cutlery, etc. BUT I don't know which one of them gave us what because it was all together in the box. I wasn't together enough at the time to ask and I don't really feel like I can call them up now and say, "Oh yeah, was the fruit basket or the box from you?"
How do I word a thank you card for them?? I really don't like thank you cards that don't specifically mention the gift, but is there another way to go about this?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
__________________ Just twist my rubber arm... ;o)
How about "Your kindness and generosity helped make this difficult time easier to get through. Thank you for your thoughtfulness."
Are you handwriting it or typing it on the computer? i think if you type it up, attach it to the inside of your card, it would be appropriate. Then all you have to do is sign your names, and if you wish, just add a little personal note.
I think the wording suggested above is a very good option. I think in these situations most people just appreciate getting a thank you without worrying about the specific item brought over being mentioned. I would hope a friend would understand that you were dealing with a lot and that you were not able to keep it all straight. A simple thank you seems more than appropriate. Don't worry about the details.
__________________ Martha
"When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life." Jean Shinoda Bolen
If it was all together in a box then it was all together - my mother's friends do things like that - clubbing in together to give more as a small group.
However, I think the phrase above is good - if you wish to be more personal you can say how overwhelmed you were with everyone's generosity during this time.
Maybe they combine their resources? Maybe you could say something like this..."Sue and Tammy, the fruit basket and paper supplies were very much appreciated. It's caring thoughtful friends like you that made this difficult time less stressful for my family and me."
Don't sweat the small details about who gave what in a gift in this particular instance. I would focus on acknowledging these women's friendship and support during such a difficult time for you and your family, and would express the gratitude and graciousness you feel as a result. When I write thank you's I try to be as personal as possible and write from the heart. Sorry for your loss.
I agree with cardmaker2. Her wording is perfectly appropriate, though I would write thank you notes, not type them. If the occasion were Christmas, I'd call and ask who gave what, blaming my flakiness for mixing up the gifts. But for a funeral, no one with compassion will be picky about getting a specific thank you. I'm sure your friends will understand, and I'll bet if they knew your dilemma, it would upset them that you're so worried about it!
Although cardmaker2's wording was great, I think if you want to include the specific item in each person's card, just write it the same way. On Sue's card say how thoughtful she and Tammi were to bring the fruit and paper goods. On Tammi's card say how thoughtful she and Sue were.
OP - I had to write similar thank you's last month. I was at a loss for what to say, so googled "funeral thank you wording" and got lots of great suggestions. I mentioned gifts in many cases - but just a "thank you for your generosity" is ok, too. You can also let them know that their gifts eased the burden of cooking & dining for you during this difficult time.
Also - my condolences on the loss of your Mom.
__________________ Diana
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Thank you so much, ladies. I appreciate the time you took to help me out.
What I've done is print cards I designed using a computer program because I didn't have the oomph I needed to go find cards in a store that said what I wanted them to say AND had a look I was happy with. Then I hand wrote a couple of sentences for each. Then I did some hand-made cards for people who took part in the service or did something extra special. There were just too many people to thank to hand-make them all.
As for those two specific cards, I decided to mention both gifts to each of them.
Thanks again for your help and your condolences.
__________________ Just twist my rubber arm... ;o)
It was so kind of you and Betty to stop by with the lovely fruit and paper goods.....
It was so thoughtful for you and June to stop bu with the paper goods and fruit....
__________________ ~Vee
It's not who you know-it's whom you know.
Honey I am so sorry for losing your Momma. Just write the note as avbove. Anymore people forget to even write the thank you and this is what counts. Take care.
Thank you card dilemma... Help please!!!
