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I'm so sorry that these people were so rude to you. I had tolaugh at the comment about the "leg lamp" from A Christmas Story. Last weekend at our school's Education Foundation auction, someone made a leg lamp and donated the movie to go along with it. It sold for $190! All kinds of people were oohing and aahing over it! Just goes to show you never know who will appreciate all the work you put into something.
I think the ones that make the 'too much time on your hands' are trying to say in a backward, slap in your face way that if you have free time you should be cleaning more or cooking more or something domestic more. I sometimes feel guilty when I have a couple hours on my hands and the vacuuming needs to be done but I want to stamp. I can bet that the people who have the audacity to say that, to your face or not, don't have hobbies. And take a little solace in the fact that your are probably a happier person and will therefore live a longer, happier life as a result.
This seems to also be a female affliction. Women are catty, or tend to be. Most guys would back down if you told them that a comment like that hurt. And I'm sure they 'waste' time on stuff that is equally as unimportant but look at it this way, you've spread joy to someone else - not them - with your free time.
Just keep making your homemade gifts and cards. It is so awesome to make things for people who REALLY love and appreciate them! But, it is also VERY frustrating when it seems they aren't appreciated! :(
My 7 year old son made me a card and a birthday gift ALL by himself (I didn't even suggest it) because he and my DH didn't get a chance to go shopping! To me it meant the world, of course because he is my son, but more importantly it was the thought and the time he took. He was so proud and I will treasure them forever. And he MADE it just for me!
Keep sharing your gifts with others and your love and talents, too. Thanks for sharing your story, perhaps others can realize how much just a simple "THANK YOU" or even "NICE JOB" can mean to a person. Even a little gratitude goes a LONG WAY! If we as stampers spread even more gratitude and joy, maybe others can learn by example. Keep creating and being creative. It is a true gift! You are very talented! Keep it up!
Since we know how much gratitude and appreciation can mean, spread a little today!
Pass it on! Somebody has to catch on sometime??
Thanks to all the creative, crafty, thoughtful people out there! You make this world a better place. :lol:
I am so sorry that you received such a rude comment. I have received that type of comment before, and I told them that it does not take that long to create a card and that I could teach them how. I have seen my handmade items in the trash and laying around on the floor and it was disheartening to see it. A lot of times I would pick it up myself, and re-use it. They questioned why I was picking it out of the trash and that they loved my card and I told them obviously they did not love it enough because it's in the trash. I MADE that card myself and it was hardwork to make it. I told them I would re-use it and give it to someone that would appreciate it better. The look on their face was priceless. Nowadays I limit who gets handmade items from me. My boyfriend loves all of the items that I make him, and he has had cards that I made him before we were dating and those cards are like 2-3 years old and he still has them.
Please continue to make handmade items and don't let their comments get you down.
__________________ Nicole L.
The Angel Company Demonstrator #1260
Team Leader of The Elegant Diva Stamp Angels! Email
I am so sorry that you received such a rude comment. I have received that type of comment before, and I told them that it does not take that long to create a card and that I could teach them how. I have seen my handmade items in the trash and laying around on the floor and it was disheartening to see it. A lot of times I would pick it up myself, and re-use it. They questioned why I was picking it out of the trash and that they loved my card and I told them obviously they did not love it enough because it's in the trash. I MADE that card myself and it was hardwork to make it. I told them I would re-use it and give it to someone that would appreciate it better. The look on their face was priceless. Nowadays I limit who gets handmade items from me. My boyfriend loves all of the items that I make him, and he has had cards that I made him before we were dating and those cards are like 2-3 years old and he still has them.
Please continue to make handmade items and don't let their comments get you down.
__________________ Nicole L.
The Angel Company Demonstrator #1260
Team Leader of The Elegant Diva Stamp Angels! Email
Or perhaps a card from Dollar Tree? You could even cut it in half to save $!
ROFLMAO!! .50 each year! How funny is that?????
OK, seriously, I'm so sorry that your feelings were hurt. I've asked my friends/coworkers if they would prefer homemade or store bought cards. Hands down the answer was homemade.
Keep on doing what makes you happy! I appreciate you!
Hugs,
Christine
__________________ "We don't see things as they are; we see them as we are." Anais Nin
Wow
"pearls before swine" comes to mind!
I have a completely unevolved, closed-minded, lives-in-fear kind of mom so I grew up with this crippled mindset
maybe it's generational, shes now sixty or it's that she's second-generation canadian and still has that old-world "don't rejoice or call attention to yourself lest the evil eye fix its gaze upon you" kind of FEAR
I am full-tilt, head-on, unstoppable creative force but it still took me until I was 17 to get away from her! I didn't leave because I was wild or bad or into teen culture or anything ...I was super good girl! I just could not take the criticism any more!
I have anger and other issues (...what could I have become if I would simply have been ENCOURAGED to bloom where I'd been planted...?)
but I do try to have compassion
I think that she is the product of some error in upbringing - something was just not available at a critical spot in her development that left her unable to parent me in this most needed way
I REALLY believe that these judgemental people are so critical of our creativity because some seedling sprout of theirs was uncermoniously
KILLED----It really goes beyond "whatever, they're just jealous"
It is a disability due to an amputation that neither you nor they can see which is why it is such a slap in the face when the comments "just pop out"
I've now been away from her as long as I had endured her and I am only now coming into my own !!!
She still is the same but she doesn't get very much of my creative fruits,
I just think of her as craft- allergic!
THANK the universe for STAMPIN' AND SU!
and thank goodness for all Y'all too!
Right on mycattracks! I vote for never buying her anything again!!!! However, I also really like the cut a $ store card in 1/2. I am devious like that. I had a horrible mother in law, though.
I know that my sister once told me (thru other sisters) that she didn't really appreciate my homemade gifts. I didn't give her anything homemade for a good long time (I gave her husband some of my homemade salsa and he didn't seem to mind). So guess what I got from her for Christmas? Stamped coaster set, stamped wine glass lamp shade, interesting, huh? Oh, well, guess my homemade stuff has gotten better over the years.
Another funny, I used to make homemade gifts for my husbands family and once his mom got mad at us and we woke up one morning to find all of our gifts we had ever given them on our front lawn, including a basket of silk flowers that I had made for my sister in law to give her for her birthday.
Yeah, I vote no more cards for any of them!
How about you send me one instead, I will definitely appreciate it!
Colleen
I have a stamp tht I stamp on all my envelopes that reads:
Enclosed is a handmade card
as such it deserves a place of honor and respect in your home and should not be discarded like an ordinary store bought card.
I think it gets might piont across. I found it at my LSS.
Carla
I have a stamp tht I stamp on all my envelopes that reads:
Enclosed is a handmade card
as such it deserves a place of honor and respect in your home and should not be discarded like an ordinary store bought card.
I think it gets might piont across. I found it at my LSS.
Carla
My dad's wife (my own mom passed away) once said to me as she opened a birthday card that I had hand stamped; "I only do Hallmark."
Yes, she said this!!!!!!! I about died!!!!!
I since found cards for 10 cents (yes, 10 cents) at a thrift shop, and use these cards for those who people who are ungrateful and unappreciative. I feel better that I haven't wasted my valuable time and talent. And a
10 cent card is really all they deserve!!!!
I do this for Christmas cards too. Send out the box that cost $1.00 that you got at 75% clearance to those who don't care. I always feel a lot better. Save your homemade cards for folks who care! (I have a co-worker who has made all my holiday cards into framed ornaments for her Christmas tree!!! Now SHE and her family get my BEST cards!!!!!)
I have a stamp that I stamp on all my envelopes that reads:
Enclosed is a handmade card
as such it deserves a place of honor and respect in your home and should not be discarded like an ordinary store bought card.
I think it gets my point across. I found it at my LSS.
Carla
I'm sure at some point, someone told Picasso he should keep his day job. Just because some people don't appreciate the enjoyment you get out of stamping doesn't mean you should beat yourself up about it. It's their loss really. If they'd rather have a mass produced card that a million other people are going to receive, so be it!
You go ahead and stamp your hand off! I'll be doing the same thing! And if you need someone to send it to who will appreciate it, my mailbox is always open.
Ronda
My husband frequently jokes that I have my cost per card down to $42.00.
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:
I'm not sure my cost per card is even down THAT low!!! I say bump anyone off your list that doesn't appreciate what you do, UNLESS you are enjoying doing it.
I, quite frankly, make my cards as much for me as for my recipients. Of course I put thought into each and every one for that particular person. And of course I could still get my feelings hurt by such a thoughtless comment. But the creating is so satisfying for me that in the end it doesn't matter if they appreciate it, because the creating has "fed my soul."
Just wish I could get the cost per card down to $42 like MaryEileen!!!
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Marni - SCS #14788 and SU Demo
My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it's on your plate. Thornton Wilder
I've become picky over the years...I know the folks who really appreciate a handmade card, and I know the folks who'd rather get a laugh out of a Shoebox card. I'm okay with that.
My MIL once compared my cards to her friend that was making cards on her computer...ugh! In her defense, she's just not a crafty person, and I'm okay with that. But this year for Christmas, I made her a SU calendar filled with scrapbook pages of her family, and she just cried and cried and said it was the best present she'd gotten! Go figure!
I think there are varying degrees of handmade gifts, and times when they are appropriate. For example, I organized a wedding scrapbook for my nephew's bride with pages made by family and ready to be filled. She loved it! But I have to admit, when I see some of the "gift" ideas presented in the SU catalogs and magazines, I sometimes think to myself "Who would I ever give that to?" I mean really, who would appreciate a teeny hand stamped box of birdseed? A party favor, yes, but a gift? No.
I can totally relate! I have gotten the too much time on your hands remark a lot. I don't give nearly as much as I used too because of it. That's sad, I know, but I limit my giving to those that are appreciative. The last time I showed my brother's girlfriend a card I had made I got the comment, "Yeah, your so talented Monica." (only dripping with sarcasm). Like I'm trying to show off or something. A few years ago when we didn't have a lot of money for Christmas I made family memers a big tray of different kinds of homemade cookies with special handpainted ornaments. When I handed my brother's to him he said, "This is all I get?" Maybe I'm just too sensitive. I stopped giving them anymore cookies around the holidays. Last year I decided to try again. This year the comment was, "We've got so much of this cr*p lying around this year." Hmmm. I'm thinking that's the last time they're getting anything. It's called TACT, and some people just do not have any. I could never in a million years make some of the comments that I have heard.
Sooooo, anyway, I feel for you. Don't let it get you down. Just save your beautiful creations for those that appreciate it. Or get into scrapbooking like me...that way it's totally for you and your immediate family and you get to enjoy it for years to come!
So sorry to hear about the insensitive comments (either in envy or mean-spirit). No matter what, they should follow the golden rule of "if you can't say something nice..."
My SIL dragged me to my first stamping demo, but I'm the one who really got into it. We were scrapbooking (I was making cards) with my mother a month ago and she asked if mom was into "the whole cardmaking thing too." She also said something about having a life and no time to even think about stamping cards. I wanted to kick her under the table, but just smiled and went back to stamping and playing. Since I know she appreciates the things I make for her, I can only assume it was a touch of envy.
My mom, on the other hand wishes she had more time, but says she lives through me vicariously on stampin--even buying tools and "lending" them to me. I only started at the end of November, but she was so disappointed when I sent store-bought Christmas cards. I got a comment about it, too. For mother's day I'm making her a set of cards and pens, that should make her day. But my mother is where I get my "hand-craft" gene. We were not always well-off but she made our home beautiful with her little home-made touches here and there, so she has a true appreciation of the little things and she taught me to love it--even if it isn't perfect. I only I can teach my children that value as well as she taught me.
There are just some people in this world who do not think hand-crafted things are "up to par"--even though they are better and made with love. They have no appreciation for the time and care you poured into the item and the value is not even to be measured. Just let those people be and spoil those who appreciate your efforts. Trust me, you'll get more positive joy from the giving! You will be happier in the end.
Also promise no matter what, do not stop stamping unless you really want to. That would be the worst thing of all!
I can totally relate! I have gotten the too much time on your hands remark a lot. I don't give nearly as much as I used too because of it. That's sad, I know, but I limit my giving to those that are appreciative. The last time I showed my brother's girlfriend a card I had made I got the comment, "Yeah, your so talented Monica." (only dripping with sarcasm). Like I'm trying to show off or something. A few years ago when we didn't have a lot of money for Christmas I made family memers a big tray of different kinds of homemade cookies with special handpainted ornaments. When I handed my brother's to him he said, "This is all I get?" Maybe I'm just too sensitive. I stopped giving them anymore cookies around the holidays. Last year I decided to try again. This year the comment was, "We've got so much of this cr*p lying around this year." Hmmm. I'm thinking that's the last time they're getting anything. It's called TACT, and some people just do not have any. I could never in a million years make some of the comments that I have heard.
Sooooo, anyway, I feel for you. Don't let it get you down. Just save your beautiful creations for those that appreciate it. Or get into scrapbooking like me...that way it's totally for you and your immediate family and you get to enjoy it for years to come!
I think the ones that make the 'too much time on your hands' are trying to say in a backward, slap in your face way that if you have free time you should be cleaning more or cooking more or something domestic more. I sometimes feel guilty when I have a couple hours on my hands and the vacuuming needs to be done but I want to stamp. I can bet that the people who have the audacity to say that, to your face or not, don't have hobbies. And take a little solace in the fact that your are probably a happier person and will therefore live a longer, happier life as a result.
This seems to also be a female affliction. Women are catty, or tend to be. Most guys would back down if you told them that a comment like that hurt. And I'm sure they 'waste' time on stuff that is equally as unimportant but look at it this way, you've spread joy to someone else - not them - with your free time.
I can totally relate! I have gotten the too much time on your hands remark a lot. I don't give nearly as much as I used too because of it. That's sad, I know, but I limit my giving to those that are appreciative. The last time I showed my brother's girlfriend a card I had made I got the comment, "Yeah, your so talented Monica." (only dripping with sarcasm). Like I'm trying to show off or something. A few years ago when we didn't have a lot of money for Christmas I made family memers a big tray of different kinds of homemade cookies with special handpainted ornaments. When I handed my brother's to him he said, "This is all I get?" Maybe I'm just too sensitive. I stopped giving them anymore cookies around the holidays. Last year I decided to try again. This year the comment was, "We've got so much of this cr*p lying around this year." Hmmm. I'm thinking that's the last time they're getting anything. It's called TACT, and some people just do not have any. I could never in a million years make some of the comments that I have heard.
Sooooo, anyway, I feel for you. Don't let it get you down. Just save your beautiful creations for those that appreciate it. Or get into scrapbooking like me...that way it's totally for you and your immediate family and you get to enjoy it for years to come!
I think the ones that make the 'too much time on your hands' are trying to say in a backward, slap in your face way that if you have free time you should be cleaning more or cooking more or something domestic more. I sometimes feel guilty when I have a couple hours on my hands and the vacuuming needs to be done but I want to stamp. I can bet that the people who have the audacity to say that, to your face or not, don't have hobbies. And take a little solace in the fact that your are probably a happier person and will therefore live a longer, happier life as a result.
This seems to also be a female affliction. Women are catty, or tend to be. Most guys would back down if you told them that a comment like that hurt. And I'm sure they 'waste' time on stuff that is equally as unimportant but look at it this way, you've spread joy to someone else - not them - with your free time.
I'm so sorry, that can be so hard to take. When I have been given the "too mcuh time on your hands" comment I just say we all make time for the things we really want/love to do. Or say something about needing a creative outlet.
Don't let their comments discourage you and not craft/stamp anymore. They just don't get it.
As for tossing a card that's been given...I do toss cards after I've been given them. I do save some handmade ones..not all. I don't have storage to save everything so I try to be selective. I never do it bc I don't like it or don't care just simply to declutter.
Just a humorous story to answer the "you have too much time on your hands" I was shuffling through the SU catalog at work picking out my supplies for my christmas cards . . .and a coworker said that, then asked a few questions, I sent her home with the catalog, and two days later she placed a 197.00 order. Hmmmmm . . . . .
__________________ Kristina Wife, Mommy, Stamper, Nurse Laura 6yo Jack 5yo, James 4/20/08 Megan arrived 3/16/09
So sorry to hear about the insensitive comments (either in envy or mean-spirit). No matter what, they should follow the golden rule of "if you can't say something nice..."
My SIL dragged me to my first stamping demo, but I'm the one who really got into it. We were scrapbooking (I was making cards) with my mother a month ago and she asked if mom was into "the whole cardmaking thing too." She also said something about having a life and no time to even think about stamping cards. I wanted to kick her under the table, but just smiled and went back to stamping and playing. Since I know she appreciates the things I make for her, I can only assume it was a touch of envy.
My mom, on the other hand wishes she had more time, but says she lives through me vicariously on stampin--even buying tools and "lending" them to me. I only started at the end of November, but she was so disappointed when I sent store-bought Christmas cards. I got a comment about it, too. For mother's day I'm making her a set of cards and pens, that should make her day. But my mother is where I get my "hand-craft" gene. We were not always well-off but she made our home beautiful with her little home-made touches here and there, so she has a true appreciation of the little things and she taught me to love it--even if it isn't perfect. I only I can teach my children that value as well as she taught me.
There are just some people in this world who do not think hand-crafted things are "up to par"--even though they are better and made with love. They have no appreciation for the time and care you poured into the item and the value is not even to be measured. Just let those people be and spoil those who appreciate your efforts. Trust me, you'll get more positive joy from the giving! You will be happier in the end.
Also promise no matter what, do not stop stamping unless you really want to. That would be the worst thing of all!
This topic hits SOOOOO close to home. I have been making homemade cards since 1998. I now have a mental list. Those who deserve my precious cards and those who get one from the 99 Hallmarks. Some people just don't get it and never will. I used to get watch someone receive one of my "four" hour cards and they were just tossed on the card pile and discared with the rest of them.
Sadly you need to figure out who appreciates them and who just does not get it.
This hits soooo close to home. I have been making homemade cards since 1998. I only send cards to those I know will appreciate it. Those that I have LEARNED over the years don't get one. They get the 99 cent jobs from Hallmark. You have to let it roll off otherwise it will make you crazy.
MILs can be the worst. If you are single remember you marry the WHOLE family
I have to say that unfortunately even people on this site, who know the time and thought that goes into a project don't always appreciate it.
There are several of us on the Stamp out Fat group who made journals for our buddies and didn't receive even a simple "I received it" let alone a "thank you". So sadly even our fellow stampers and crafters can be equally thoughtless.
But I agree. One of my first quilting teachers said you have to be willing to give your quilts with no strings attached. Her sister gave her handmade quilt to the dog!! I was horrified. Of course now I have a dog and she has one of my first quilts.
We stamp and craft because we enjoy it. Hopefully it brings joy to those we pass along our gift to, but if not, it still brought us joy to make it. Any joy it gives someone else is icing on the cake.
Unfortunately, even out fellow stampers can be equally thoughtless. I recently made a Stamp out Fat journal for my journal buddy. While I know maybe it wasn't her style, she didn't even acknowledge it. Not even a peep from her. I put a lot of time and effort into it. You would think she would understand that and atleast say thank you.
So it isn't just non-crafters who don't get it.
I stamp because I love to stamp. I give my gifts because it makes me happy. Any joy it gives to someone else is just icing on the cake. We have to stop letting those nay sayers get in the way of our joy and the joy we can bring to others.
Unfortunately, even out fellow stampers can be equally thoughtless. I recently made a Stamp out Fat journal for my journal buddy. While I know maybe it wasn't her style, she didn't even acknowledge it. Not even a peep from her. I put a lot of time and effort into it. You would think she would understand that and atleast say thank you.
So it isn't just non-crafters who don't get it.
I stamp because I love to stamp. I give my gifts because it makes me happy. Any joy it gives to someone else is just icing on the cake. We have to stop letting those nay sayers get in the way of our joy and the joy we can bring to others.
I gave a handmade card to a lady who headed up a huge fundraiser at my daughter's school. She is so awesome and did a great job. Well, I never knew that she even got it because she didn't say anything to me. Well, just the other day, she said something about the cute card I made for her last year! I couldn't believe she remembered it a year later!
Just goes to show you that you never know what people are really thinking and sometimes what they say (or don't say, in my case) doesn't necessarily reflect what they are really thinking!
But, if those people's comments make you feel bad, I say life is short and surround yourself with people you like. They are probably just jealous of you for whatever reason and wish they had your time, abilities, etc. It's all their perception anyway. Who really has a lot of time to stamp or do what they enjoy? We all probably have to make time for what we care about.
You can always send cards to people here too and you know we would always love them!!!
Depending on how you REALLY feel about your MIL - you could get some of your old store bought cards that used and were sent to you (or buy one, fill it out addressed to you) cross out the names and pencil in hers and say "MERRY CHRISTMAS!!"
To "You have too much time on your hands" reply: NOT ENOUGH!!
Depending on how you REALLY feel about your MIL - you could get some of your old store bought cards that used and were sent to you (or buy one, fill it out addressed to you) cross out the names and pencil in hers and say "MERRY CHRISTMAS!!"
To "You have too much time on your hands" reply: NOT ENOUGH!!
that's awful! I have stopped making things for co-workers who don't acknowledge my time & talent...and spend my time on giving people who care things from my heart.
Depending on how you REALLY feel about your MIL - you could get some of your old store bought cards that used and were sent to you (or buy one, fill it out addressed to you) cross out the names and pencil in hers and say "MERRY CHRISTMAS!!"
To "You have too much time on your hands" reply: NOT ENOUGH!!
I am choosy as to whom recives a wonderful heartfelt handmade treasure!
That's it exactly! I first realized that the Christmas I made handmade tags for my gifts and my DH's family didn't even give them a glance. My MIL was grabbing them with the wrapping paper and tossing them away!!!! Now I choose very carefully who I give a handmade card to. The rest, Dollar Tree.
On the bright side, my DM once made a negative comment about 'if you can't wear it or sleep with it why bother...' referring to her sewing and quilting. I was ready to put her on the cheepo card list when I noticed... a drawer... what was in there.... oh.... all the handmade cards I had ever given her :shock: ! She appreciated it more than I had realized. Guess I'd better come up with something cool for Mother's Day.
I am choosy as to whom recives a wonderful heartfelt handmade treasure!
That's it exactly! I first realized that the Christmas I made handmade tags for my gifts and my DH's family didn't even give them a glance. My MIL was grabbing them with the wrapping paper and tossing them away!!!! Now I choose very carefully who I give a handmade card to. The rest, Dollar Tree.
On the bright side, my DM once made a negative comment about 'if you can't wear it or sleep with it why bother...' referring to her sewing and quilting. I was ready to put her on the cheepo card list when I noticed... a drawer... what was in there.... oh.... all the handmade cards I had ever given her :shock: ! She appreciated it more than I had realized. Guess I'd better come up with something cool for Mother's Day.
Hi,
I have seven kids so if my family or friends get cards ect. from me they better appreciate it. Too much time on my hands you've got to be kidding!!! I usually make these things in the early hours of the morning. I am lucky though my mum is very creative so she has some idea of the work I put into stuff. Do what you love and to heck with everyone else and maybe they will come to see the love and care you put in eventually.
Kat
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